‘Embarrassment’ does not equal ‘Empowerment’

Hello Maddie:  I am assuming that you are talking about the girls in training. What do you suggest the American women do?  I’ll tell you what I suggest. Tell the girls to get over it….in an empathetic way of course. If you remember you too were once an American woman so far behind the rest of the worlds girls.  

Embarrassment is a form of self pity. If one is going to wallow in it one will not learn the lessons from the mistakes that one has made that brought on the embarrassment in the first place.  I speak this way because I recognize this behavior in myself. 

Feeling sorry for ones self is one of the biggest mistakes American women make over and over again. It not only is not empowering but it has no benefits what-so-ever. I would say to these women to look at what circumstance brought on the embarrassment, and look at it from a mature, unemotional perspective. One can not use the excuses….’Oh I was too young to know’,  or ‘I was never taught or informed.’ At some point, one has to wake up and see the accountability in the actions and take responsibility.  When the ‘poor me, I didn’t know any better’ victim attitude is buried, strength rises. And that strength is powerful.  They only need be embarrassed if they don’t learn from their mistakes and rise above. Use the embarrassments to grow and to be able to teach other women. 

Am I off base?…maybe you weren’t seeking this advice and I am just projecting and sharing my views from a recent incident in my own life. I am not immune from such lessons. I have been embarrassed and ashamed over actions that I did when I was very ‘young and dumb’.  It wasn’t until recently that I was privy to my own mistakes and how they have shaped my life.  Yes, I was embarrassed, yes, I was ashamed, and yes I was wallowing.  But all it left me feeling was helpless and out of control. Now, what good does that do me? Nothing, I was not empowered at all.  

What did I do? I had to consciously control my emotions and get present so that I could examine my actions. No crying…no ‘buts’. It was not easy. I was major PMS but again…excuses aside. If I had continued wallowing I would not have learned what I am passing along today. No one is perfect. Shit happens. Life hands us lessons, sometimes embarrassing ones, and it is up to us to learn from them and more importantly pass them on. If one can learn and be able to share by teaching with an empathetic ear, then wouldn’t you say the embarrassment was worth it? It’s not about making embarrassing mistakes it is about what you do afterwards. Put it behind you and stop being ashamed. Use your embarrassing moments to your benefit not to your detriment. By the way, this is me passing this on. 

Am I making myself clear here? I’m not sure if I have articulated my thoughts well this morning, or if you even wanted to hear all of this…..too late, it is out there now. 

Readers: Care to share? Blog me.

Hi Valerian: As I write this, I am hoping that you are safe. I have only read briefly about what is going on in your country but already I know that the death toll is high. I realize that time is of the essence here…please give me a day or two to research. Be safe. 

’sweet pea’ and ’sweetness’: Get a room :) 

See ya tomorrow….

 

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Girl chat

Ahh…Sunday.  Sunday is usually a day for relaxing and this morning that is exactly what I am going to do. We partied last night with some friends in our disco room, listening to Led Zeppelin and Pink Floyd. We all ended up draped on the  floor stoned singing ‘Wish you were here’. It was an awesome kickback to high school when all you thought was, ‘Where’s the next party?” I just love our house; it is the perfect atmosphere to just let it all go…and we did.

I am only up to briefly write and then I’m heading back to bed to enjoy my husband.  And then….then I have big plans for the day…two parties that my girlfriend Terra invited me to – It is a GDO as opposed to a GNO. I love spending time with the girls. No matter how old I get I am still going to be one – I just love that. And speaking of girls….

Hi Janet:  Great to hear from you – For a first time commenter, you are a lucky one that you got in girl! Glad that you are up for either option – cool. 

Yeah, Doug has quite a few fans including moi.  He is a big hit with the married women as they all wish their husbands were like him and the single ones…I’m sure they try but he knows what he’s got. As I’ve always said, “You can get your appetite out anywhere but the best meat to eat is always at home.”  

Helena, Helena: You are one bad-ass bitch yourself and built like a brick shit house no doubt! I love basketball….and was very connected in the sport for years. Congrats too you! I’d love to see you play sometime. 

Funny, you are not the first to say there is some sistah in me :) I’m digin it – happy you are diggin’ the reads too. I’m into people and what makes them tick…my intuition leads me and I trust it. I bet you’re very intuitive on the court to eh? 

Honey…Latifa is long gone…I mean she’s here in form but she is no longer a girl…she is way beyond. Nadia’s around somewhere – they all are but Tal is keeping them busy. They do have jobs but maybe since you and the other girls are asking maybe they’ll take a break and show some face…

Earthling Girls:…Yo!…You are being called upon – come say hello to all of these fine girls that want to hear from you. Even if it’s just a quickie. Thanks

Hi Caroline and Mike:  Whoa..what a proposition. That is quite the admiration coming from such seasoned swingers :) It has been hinted at before but no we don’t indulge. I’m pretty much a one on one kinda girl, and as much as Doug has admitted the same, I can’t speak for him…but one never knows….I would not say that we wouldn’t ever but it is not something I think about. If we were wanting to mix it up more than we do I’m sure we’d have a convo about it…but not here on this blog. You know how to reach me privately if you need to. :)

Aloha, Aloha: I know you didn’t address me but I had to say something…Am I feeling signs of pussy envy here? Ha ha! I can understand you feeling left out – women felt the same way when they weren’t allowed to vote or to serve in the military. How does it feel? Oh by the way, the last time I checked space isn’t part of America. :)

Ooops almost forgot to say ‘hi’ to you ZL!

Okay readers…I hear my husband making noises…I’m gonna go join him. Enjoy your Sunday and I’ll see ya on the flip…Tomorrow is a day of celebration!

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Are you and FMS’er or a FOMO?

I had  three girls over for a late lunch on Saturday – a pre-party before listening to some cool music at the Chapel of Chimes Mausoleum summer solstice event – a fab event I might add. Anyway, while munching and chitchatting away we got into the discussion of material wealth and of course I brought up my blog entry from last week, ‘Do I own things or…’  

I have to say I am very lucky….I have so many groups of really diverse awesome women that I hang with.  And I can tell you this particular group unlike other groups I hang with, is not about the ‘material girl’.  Not that they don’t like beautiful things or desire wealth, – who doesn’t? But, accumulating wealth is not the priority. Yeah…all of these women, who happen to be single, are all pretty self sufficient, most of them are super creative, and not one of them owns a house.   Not that you can’t be all of the above and have money but that’s not my point No…this group doesn’t try to keep up with the Joneses, not their style. Their main competition if you want to call it that, is in regards to ‘fun’ and ‘enjoying life’, and they do an amazing job with little dough and a huge dose of creativity and collaboration.  Ah…Now we’re talkin’. 

Terra whom I have spoken about before and whom some of you have met, explains it this way. She says that no one in their group of friends, people that they usually hang with, (I am a usual but not a core part of this group),  don’t compete for personal abundance (All though I have to say quite a few of them are rolling in it!). ‘The competition is all about how much fun we’re going to have and just how many parties in a week are we going to attend?’  And the biggie question…’who had the most fun at which party?’ She says it with a big grin and I know it is true because I have experienced this competitiveness in her and her huge circle of friends. I find it quite amusing but believe me, it is always a trip, and most of the time a blast into the past – some of these people are San Francisco 60’s Beatniks and rich hippies, who never left the scene.   We try to attend whatever event Terra and the group invites us too. I stay out of the competition but I sure like to party with them.

Oh one last thing…the point of this blog entry: They describe themselves as FMS’ers: Fear of missing something’ and the latest: FOMO’s or ‘fear of missing out’. Because of these ‘titles’ hardly anyone does a no show in fear of the obvious…I think it’s hilarious. 

Are you one of these? Or do you have another acronym that describes you? Do tell!

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hi Tal:  You bet!  You know I am ready for a little chat on the Climax with Azza. I contacted her yesterday to let her know, but not sure if she is receiving it in real time. When you talk to her please let her know I am available anytime.  Just try to give me at least a 30 minutes heads – up if you can. Thanks. 

Hi Sparkle: Interesting topic choice for your blog – good luck with it!

Zen Lill:  Will do!  

Hi Al:  So sorry to hear that your prep was keeping you down. Sounds like you went through an awful bout. I hope that it is finally over.  I wish I could’ve given you a heads up earlier but I was not aware of your happenings until I blogged it. So you must be excited?!  But….  

Al….we need to talk…I have had a quite a few emails in regards to your comment.  So….it seems from what you have written that you are disclosing the info that you and Howie, OUR Howie is your house mate? Or am I reading this wrong? I know that there is a man named Howard that you live with/take care of.  Are we all now privy to the fact that Howard is actually Howie?  Please confirm or deny and clear it up here. Thanks. 

Tal:  d976 at Five 1220 – Five 1700 

Back to bed to snuggle…:>)

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This n’ That…Sunday Morn Chitchat….

ZL:  You keep me in stitches – happy you can laugh at yourself too – I love laughing at me..what else can one do :)  I have not returned your call, but I will – It has been a busy weekend and besides my blog I am trying to go off the grid a bit….my cell phone has been a home body lately.  

Hello Howie:  I didn’t address you yesterday since I didn’t have any information to tell you. I still don’t know the status of your situation.  I have inquired and have not found out anything about you taking your ride on the Climax. I’m sorry. 

I  know that you feel in limbo, but if you don’t mind me making a suggestion, I would prepare for whatever you need to do here in order to take care of yourself at this moment.  I know it can sound very spiritually woo woo and sometimes hearing that ‘this moment is really all you have’ is probably not what you are wanting to hear right now.  But unfortunately that is the truth. After all life is very transient, therefore things can change in an instant. I have learned this well the past few months and it has helped me tremendously with so much that is going on in my own personal life challenges. I would not let the unknown, ‘Am I going?’ ‘Am I not going?’,  get to you if you can help it, ’cause you know on this blog how quickly things do change. We have all experienced this.

Although I am not having the health issues that you are having, not even close, I find that when I am upset, or frustrated over a situation, I remind myself that ‘this too will pass.’ It is reassuring in every instance – happy, sad, fearful etc. Another good one is, ‘I don’t mind what happens.’ This is not to say that you condone it or a situation, but by accepting that this is how it is right now, you become friendly with life and the doors open up to assist you. If I got nothing else from reading ‘A New Earth’, I would be perfectly satisfied -  These two mantras are said out loud on a daily basis and believe it or not whatever feelings I am feeling subside and I am able to move on. It gets easier with practice. Again, not sure that this is what you want to hear but I am hoping that it can bring you some relief. I am sure that in due time you will know something, and I will be happy to continue to inquire for you.

On another note..I’m happy that you decided to throw in your two cents and join the convo.  I too feel, as I am sure many do, that our rights are being chiseled away, right from under us, in front of us, and behind us. We are not blind…We all need to pick something important to us and take action.

Hi Al:  Good to hear from you. I am doing good, thank you. – loving this beautiful weather!

It is my understanding that you will be going on the Climax. I have been informed that your body and mind are being prepared so I am assuming that this is true. That is the reason you are experiencing mood swings. Just try to relax and roll with it. However as I mentioned to Howie, events are very transient….but I am sure in time you will know for sure the ‘when’. Really, that is all I can tell you. Maybe you might address Tal for more info although I know he is quite busy with the web. 

Although speaking of the Climax:  Tal…I got up early Saturday morning, around 3:00 am…just had a pulling to go outside and next to the moon was this very bright star?  Too bright to be a star – thhere was no other star even close to the brightness of this ‘thing’…and it was moving….very slowly but moving what seemed closer to the earth.  And at times when it pulsed to a higher frequency I could see a shape – triangular – was I imagining it? or? ….My feeling was it was Azza and the Climax – can you substantiate?  I think it was strange that I woke up and had this strong desire to go outside…  

Hi Doug:  Thank you. Where’ve ya been? :) My busy, busy husband…working hard to bring home the bacon. Love your passion.  Not only question authority but continue to question until you get the answers…you know me and my million questions. 

Hi Madaline: It is good to have you back. I know how busy you are with Tal and I am aware about the communication issues. However, stick around and be available.  Readers have questions including myself. 

Sheikh walking around with no burka? Ah…that must”ve created quite a stir! At first I imagined her walking around naked in that hot bod of hers…but no, I bet she’s decked out in some designer duds showing way much more than a flash of an ankle. I’m sure her prominent beauty was not appreciated.  I trusted that she would not initiate but I never said that she couldn’t protect herself. I imagine the Muslim women were applauding.

I am assuming it was your first time to Pakistan here and seeing just how horrific the women are treated. Was it different for you since this is your birth planet? We American women have no idea what it is like to truly be treated as cattle or should I say chattel.  Really no difference.  Embarrassment leads to extermination – unbelievable…while the men can do as they please, which means raping their women at will while the women must succumb to this brutality without a word.  The Koran is the word. 

What suggestions or assistance are you providing to the Pakistani women.  If it is extermination of their men, I bet they are anxious to move forward with a plan. If I were in their burkas living as they live, I probably would not argue with extermination either.  

You must be aware that TPS has contacted me for an interview. I know this is no coicidence. I have received their questions and will respond to them this week.  

Enjoy the sunny Sunday!

 

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And the saga(s) continues…

M from Earth:  My first thought was hmmm…will readers think it is me up there on the Climax? But my main thought was like Doug…wishful thinking that maybe we will be lucky enough to get some assistance here too.  Of course I took my wishing a bit further in hopes that it would be you and  Azza and the rest of the ambassadors from earth to rescue this planet.  What a wonderful feeling to be able to assist on such a huge level.  M, if you know what is in store for us, why not help out on the earth that you are from instead of just grabbing your loved ones and taking off? Does this earth not mean anything to you anymore or do you feel it is hopeless? I am anxious about the upcoming elections and the livelihood of the people of this planet. As much as there are positive changes, much change needs to happen and we have a lot to evolve to in my opinion.  I know that you know this and probably are privy to more as you have hinted. Thankfully I have faith.  

 

On another note…I have to lighten up and laugh about Azza’s period discovery – I was wondering if and when that was going to happen.  I was going to mention it to her when she was first commenting as an earth woman. In fact I had an idea of blogging about the good ol monthly and the dreaded PMS – strictly a read for women – not sure then men could handle the bloody details. So…tell me were there any signs of PMS? Ohh I would not have wanted to experience that one, but I would love to have been a fly on the ship :)

 

Readers: I have to say the saying again, “Life is stranger than fiction.” Is that the saying? Someone correct me if I am wrong.  Movie people:  Are you reading this? I know that the alien stuff is fodder for a flick, but this stuff is better than a soap opera – are you taking notes? Sagalicious to say the least – I made up that word…in case you are wondering what it means – my definition is a delicious saga.  Do you agree? But kidding aside, seriously, I question…are other blogs this interesting?  How did all of this happen?  I guess when a readership blows into the multi thousands, it will attract all kinds. If you think I am complaining I am not…don’t get me wrong, this is all very interesting, but quite delicate, I must add.  Life and it’s characters never cease to amaze me.  I am delighted that people are not the same – how boring that would be.  But it seems that people have a tendency to really open up on my blog.  And speaking of… 

 

T: Really I wasn’t sure if BC wasn’t just having fun BS’n, but now we get the second half of the story and it is not pretty.  I hope that you don’t feel that I am not showing sensitivity to your situation. I feel for you. I have never, thankfully and hopefully never will, experience anything remotely close to your experiences.  Unfortunately many young girls/women do….I could never imagine what you must feel even if I tried.  It seems to me that this is BC’s initial knowledge of his father’s pedophile ways? or not? Why have you never informed him of this before? This is a lot of information to put in a public forum, but then I guess BC initiated it.  I hope for you that your situation with BC comes to a resolution and you can move on with your life.

 

Zen Lill:  In response to your ooopsy…I guess that blog forums have a tendency to bring out that expletive. That conversation does not sound like fun – thankfully you were a bit heated with a few huh? But once again…if you don’t like what you are reading, then stop reading – simple. But oh so difficult for some – I know…I know…this is addictive reading! I can’t stop reading it either :) You know I went through quite a drama not too long ago.  I guess there is a reason for this too.  Flirtatiousness all in the name of fun…or is it anutzaboutlilli? :)

 

I’m nutz for getting up at 7:30 am to blog on a Saturday!  I am signing off…have a beaauutiful day everyone and try not to create more drama than you need in your life. Although if you are  a drama queen or king…go for it – the blog is now open – blog me! :)

 

 

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